Agility is the ability to re-invent yourself when necessary. To recognise that the environment will no longer accommodate your current state or goals, and make radical changes to be able to survive. Like a fish whose water’s PH levels have changed radically and needs to adapt its own chemistry to avoid death. Throughout the world humankind is being given an opportunity to adapt or die.
Overnight we’ve all gone from having not enough time and demand stress, to too much time. We’ve always longed for space from the never-ending demands from clients, colleagues, family. Although the routines help to keep the gloomies away, it’s also liberating to be have the space to identify what we need to do – to allow our true persona and priorities to emerge without pressure.
I’ve had to re-invent myself many times in my life. The first was realising that my childhood dream of being a full-time mother was unrealistic – I would have to work full-time whilst raising my two children, and the big house and comfortable lifestyle I sought were a naiive dream. The second was divorce – a challenge for anyone who has to go through this trauma – and this adaption that takes years, not months. Keeping a business afloat and children from feeling the fallout of the home dissolution became a full-time lesson in changing oneself. That’s the thing about re-invention – you have to be able to look honestly at yourself and the things that are stopping you from moving forward, and then change. You have to let go of the comfortable “you”-ness. Even if it was right for so long, if it’s no longer working, you have to change. Like everyone I’ve had a number of hard reality knocks over the last few years, most requiring me to change the way I like doing things. Whilst my character and personality remain solid, my way of solving problems has to change whenever what I’m doing isn’t working. In raising my children I’ve tried to instil this understanding in them more than anything else; if you’re emotionally agile and don’t fall apart when things don’t go your way, you will cope with anything life throws your way.